Briallen Hopper’s Hard to Love honors the categories of loves and relationships beyond marriage, the ones that are often treated as invisible or seen as secondary–friendships, kinship with adult siblings, care teams that form in times of illness, or various alternative family formations. She also values difficult and amorphous loves like loving a challenging job or inanimate objects that can’t love you back. She draws from personal experience, sharing stories about her loving but combative family, the fiercely independent Emerson scholar who pushed her away, and the friends who have become her invented or found family;